Nurturing Children

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Trust and Respect

  • Acknowledge children’s right to have own feelings, friends, activities and opinions.
  • Promote independence
  • Allow for privacy
  • Respect feelings for other parent
  • Believe in your kids
Provide Emotional Security

  • Talk and act so that children feel safe and comfortable expressing themselves
  • Be gentle
  • Be dependable
Provide Physical Security

  • Provide food, shelter and clothing
  • Teach personal hygene and nutrition
  • Monitor safety
  • Maintain a family routine
Care for Yourself

  • Give yourself personal time
  • Keep yourself healthy
  • Accept love
Give Affection

  • Talk and act so that children feel safe and comfortable expressing themselves
  • Be gentle
  • Be dependable
Encourage

  • Be affirming
  • Encourage children to follow their interests
  • Let children disagree with you
  • Recognize Improvement
  • Teach new skills
  • Let them mess up
Give Time

  • Participate in your childrens’ lives through activities, school, sports, special events and days, celebrations and friends
  • Include your children in your activities
  • Reveal who you are to your children
Provide Discipline

  • Be consistent
  • Ensure rules are appropriate to age and development of the child
  • Be clear about limitations and expectations
  • Use discipline to instruct

Abuse of Children

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Intimidation

  • Instilling fear through looks, actions, gestures, property destruction
  • Using adult size
  • Being violent to others, especially pets or other parent
Using Institutions

  • Threatening punishment through God, courts, police, public schools, juvenile detention, foster homes, relatives, psych wards
Isolation

  • Controlling access to peers/adults, siblings, other parent and grandparents
Emotional Abuse

  • Put downs, name calling
  • Using children as confidants
  • Using children to get or give information to other parent
  • Being inconsistent
  • Shaming
Economic Abuse

  • Witholding basic needs, using money to control behavior
  • Squandering family money
  • Witholding child support
  • Using children as economic bargaining chips in a divorce
Threats

  • Threatening abandonment, suicide, physical harm, confinement or harm to other loved ones
Using Adult Priviledge

  • Treating children as servants
  • Punishing, bossing, always winning
  • Denying input in visitation or custody decisions
  • Interrupting